Furniture can have strong emotional associations and a piece you shared for so long in a space as intimate as your bedroom, can really bring up old stuff.   If it’s the first thing you see in the morning, it can ruin your whole day—so consider moving it until you have some distance from the divorce.   Often, just using a piece of furniture in a different way can lessen the intensity of the feelings surrounding it.  For example, in the image to the left, a dresser is repurposed as a breakfront n the family room.)

  We tend to re-use furniture for the same purpose they were used in the previous house.  Using pieces in totally different ways, can make it seem like we’ve re-decorated.  So don’t’ be locked in to the old patterns.  Think outside the box!

That sounds familiar!  The good news is:  you can fix it.  The emotional aspect will take some time, but using familiar pieces of furniture in different ways can help even that along. We live with our furniture so long it’s sometimes hard to imagine that a dining table can now become a display piece, a desk or a project table. 

Changing hardware on a dresser can make it yours.  Get new bed linens, and I strongly recommend a new mattress if you can afford it.  Intimate  pieces can hold “energy” for a long time, making it harder to move on.  Sleep in the MIDDLE of the bed so it doesn’t feel like you’re missing a partner!

Finally—or maybe before you start any of the above projects—do an energetic clearing and a blessing on your house.  Best drums, rings bells, clap and chase away the divorce vibes.  Finish with a blessing using sandalwood, or frankincense and myrrh incense,  walking through each room saying a blessing or prayer of your choice.  It could be a simple as “Bless this space for my highest and best good, for my (my family’s) health and well-being.”  I predict you will feel a dramatic shift!